Online Retreat – Present in the Pain

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

The next Present in the Pain retreat will be held, Lord willing, in April of 2021.

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A Catholic healing retreat specifically for grieving mothers, Present in the Pain will take a look at our experiences of loss through the lens of our Faith, drawing on the example of Our Lady of Sorrows as a fellow grieving mother.

If you have experienced the loss of a pregnancy through miscarriage or stillbirth, or the loss of an infant or young child, this retreat is for you. A bereaved mother myself, I hope to minister to your broken heart and accompany you on your healing journey while bringing you together with other grieving mothers who understand the intense and ongoing pain of this unique loss. Together, let’s explore how to be present in our own stories, how we can learn to trust God again with our broken hearts, and the ways in which our suffering can help us to grow.

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Retreat format

My original intent was to do these retreats in person, but the coronavirus has made that difficult. I hope to be able to do this in the future, but I am currently in the process of transitioning away from a Facebook-based event and creating the retreats in an online “course” format. I hope to have these available in the spring of 2021.

Some of the sessions will have a creative activity associated with them. For those sessions, I will post a separate video demonstrating the activity for you so that you may do it at home at your leisure whenever you feel ready and have time to do so.

The videos will include topics such as

  • Telling your story – how it heals the hurt
  • The unexpected aspects of grief and trauma (includes a creative activity)
  • When it’s hard to pray – learning to trust God again
  • Dealing with unanswered questions: Why? What if? and What could have been?
  • The Church’s teaching on our babies as saints in heaven (includes a creative activity involving our children’s names plus a live prayer time with a litany of saints that includes our children)
  • The gifts of suffering – growth and an eternal perspective

and more!

Each week, there will also be two one-hour live Zoom meetings available for real-time discussion and questions at a time to be voted on by the retreat participants.

I hope that you will set aside a bit of time for yourself every week to relax, watch each video, and participate in whatever way you feel comfortable doing. This is a special time just for you.

Materials needed

Some very basic items will be used for our creative activities. Many of these you may already have on hand in your home, but all can be purchased relatively inexpensively.

You will need:

  • a blank notebook and pen or pencil (It can be a fancy journal-type notebook or a basic black and white marbled composition book. It can have lines or no lines. Any type of notebook will work.)
  • colored pencils or crayons (You’ll want something to create blocks of color in your notebook that won’t bleed through the pages.)
  • a 5×7 photo frame (Any style is fine – use whatever goes with your decor. You will be creating something that has your baby’s name on it and can choose where to display it in your home.)
  • Watercolor paper, paints, and a paintbrush (This can be obtained at any store that has art supplies – Michael’s or AC Moore, Hobby Lobby, or even Target and Walmart. You want paper that won’t bleed and a basic tray of Crayola-type watercolors with a brush included will work just fine. The watercolor paper will be cut to fit inside your frame. Don’t be intimidated by this activity – it is very simple, but beautiful.)
  • scissors, glue (optional)

I am really looking forward to being with you for this special time of discussion, creativity, prayer, and healing!